With the Same Measure…

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Words of our Lord Jesus Christ: “Judge not, and you shall not be judged. Condemn not, and you shall not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.  Give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you.” Luke 6: 37-38. In this case, the judging, condemning, and forgiving, all carry the same result, we receive more than what we give. We don’t have the ability to make a fair judgement, because it requires knowledge that we don’t possess. And if we consider that we all are interconnected, our judgment or condemnation would affect not only one person, but many. Is that a responsibility we want to put on our shoulders? How could we decide something that would benefit everyone involved, or to punish just one person? For us, it is impossible. that is why we have been released from that task. The only one who can do that work because He has all the knowledge, is the Holy Spirit. If instead of judging or condemning we let the offense pass - letting go and forgiving is the same – and ask the Holy Spirit to take care of it, in His own way, we will receive a lot more than what we gave.

“Would it be possible for you to hate your brother if you were like him? Could you attack him if you realized you journey with him, to a goal that is the same? Would you not help him reach it in every way you could, if his attainment of it were perceived as yours?... Your brother is your friend because his Father created him like you. There is no difference. You have been given to your brother that love might be extended, not cut off from him. What you keep is lost to you.” ACIM T.24.i.6-7. However, instead of seeing them as brothers, we see them as opponents, or enemies, we pay attention to all the areas in which we may be different from each other. The only reason we do this, is because we want to feel superior to them. We look for their flaws and mistakes and we always find them because it is what we want to see. But in the same way, if our intention is to see our similarities, we would also find them because they are there. All of us, in our hearts, we want the same thing, to remember our identity and return to God.

God gave us brothers so that we may share His love with them, to serve us as a mirror in which we can see our ownselves, see our flaws, and make the necessary corrections. We don’t know ourselves. We don’t want to accept our faults and our mistakes. We despise having them, but instead of correcting them, we prefer to project them on others. In psychology, projecting is the mechanism by which a person attributes to another a behavior or a feeling of his own that he does not dare to recognize. We live in a state of denial. We want to get rid of everything that bothers us, and in doing so, although we don’t perceive it in ourselves any longer, and we believe that the issue has been resolved, in fact we only hide it, but it is still in our mind.  But now, instead of seeing it in us, we see the flaw or the error in others.  And this is the way how our brothers are serving us as a mirror. In them we see our image reflected. What we judge or condemn in them, are our own faults that we projected. That is why the Apostle Paul said, “Therefore you are inexcusable, O man, whoever you are who judge, for in whatever you judge another you condemn yourself; for you who judge practice the same things.Romans 2: 1. This is another reason why we should not judge others.

Knowing that it is not our job to make judgments should be a great relief. We should take in consideration that everyone - from his own point of view - always believes he is doing what he should be doing. Obviously, it is not always well perceived and accepted by others as such. But only truth is true. If we think they are violating certain laws, we must intercede for them, and ask God to correct their minds. We cannot change another person’s way of being, and we should not even try because that task is not ours. Our job here is to accept them as they are and offer them love and mercy, because that is what God gives to us.

I hope this makes you think about your relationship with God.