THERE IS HEALING IN SHARING OUR EXPERIENCES # 15105

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The Apostle Peter said: “Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble.  Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.  For, whoever would love life and see good days must keep their tongue from evil and their lips from deceitful speech. They must turn from evil and do good; they must seek peace and pursue it.” 1 Peter 3: 8-11. These recommendations from the Apostle Peter are equally relevant now because we still have the same tendencies, such as separating ourselves from others when we are unhappy or sad. However, growth occurs as we interact with others, when we share our love and compassion for their pain, when we are friendly, not by trying to be isolated. 

Many times we feel unhappy, and the main reason is loneliness. It doesn’t need to be like that. We come in groups, family, neighbors, friends and coworkers. It is a group of people with whom we can keep in touch and interact. Communication is sharing our thoughts, ideas and feelings with someone else. But we are selective in what we say because we want to project the best possible image of ourselves. We avoid talking about upsetting or embarrassing things that have happened to us. We hide those. But life is not perfect. There is sorrow, joy. Embarrassing and shameful moments happen to everyone.  We could share them instead of hiding them.   After talking about them, perhaps we could laugh together. Words from the Lord Jesus Christ: “For there is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed, or hidden that will not be made known.” Matthew 10: 26b. There are no secrets, everything will come to light eventually. It is best if we say it ourselves.  

Sharing a life experience with someone constitutes an open invitation for them to perhaps share a painful experience with us.  Letting it out will bring healing.  As we get to know others, we identify with them and develop more love and compassion for them. We also learn to accept ourselves and others just as we are. It helps us realize that everyone is on their journey doing the very best they can with what they know. “The purpose of your learning is to enable you to bring the quiet with you, and to heal distress and turmoil. This is not done by avoiding them and seeking a haven of isolation for yourself. You will yet learn that peace is part of you, and requires only that you be there to embrace any situation in which you are.  And finally you will learn that there is no limit to where you are, so that your peace is everywhere, as you are.” ACIM W-rI.in.4,5.

The last recommendation of the Apostle Peter in the above passage is "seek peace and pursue it.” However, we can only give what we have. If you are not enjoying peace and you wish to find rest and enjoy tranquility, the following exercise could help you. You need to analyze some events in your life and write them down. What made me lose my peace? When did I start to feel this apprehension? If you cannot recollect, try to remember the last time you enjoyed peace, maybe a month, six months, or one year or more ago? Once you determine the season, bring to memory the event that took place afterwards that somehow threatened your safety. Is the danger over now or do you still feel threatened?  If you accept that there is no longer a reason to fear, in that recognition you will find peace. But if the situation has not been resolved, and you don’t believe that you can solve it on your own, write down you problem and pray for a solution so you may have peace.  When we pray to God, our request needs to be congruent.  It is indispensable that our thoughts and our words be in agreement, and yours at this point should be. The Lord will answer once you pray.

Peace is already within you. It is yours. Fears made you lose sight of it, but it is a temporary loss. Do this exercise whenever you find it necessary. To share your peace with others, just send them peace as a blessing, and peace will increase in your life.  I hope these studies bring you closer to God and motivate you to analyze your life so you get to know yourself better and enjoy love, peace and happiness.

"The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit, be with you all." 2 Corinthians 13:14

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