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The Golden Rule, in the words of the Lord Jesus Christ: "Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets." Matthew 7:12. We all want to be treated with kindness, respect, dignity, acceptance, patience, and appreciation for the work we do, but we are not so aware that in order to receive this treatment, this should be our attitude toward them. When we learn to use the Golden Rule, it becomes second nature to us, and others respond to our attitude. The Rule says: do what you want them to do to you, because giving and receiving are simultaneous. We need to be aware of our actions. In many cases, we don’t trust someone else’s work. We don’t believe that their decisions are the best.  We believe we can do it better, so we want to correct them.  But is this not a judgmental attitude? If we cannot correct ourselves, how can we correct someone else? We do not know why they acted that way.

We need to realize that everyone is on his way, doing the best they can with the knowledge they have achieved so far, but everyone needs to grow and mature. Remember that at different times you also made istakes and learned the lessons.  Then trust and accept that they too are entitled to make mistakes and they will learn their lesson at their own time. The people who are more mature need to show patience, acceptance, and wisdom to deal with the mistakes of the immature, or weaker person. Perhaps at times it may seem easier to make a decision for someone else because you think you already went through that situation, but it is not the same situation, this one has different factors. When would the immature person learn if every time someone else resolves his situation? The Apostle Paul said, “We who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak...  Each of us should please our neighbors for their good, to build them up.”Romans 15: 1-2. Offer your support with a word of encouragement, hope, something that inspires them, give them your blessing, never something that makes them feel belittled, and at all times allow them freedom of action.

If someone asks you for help, give them advice, although there are times when words are not even necessary. Just with your presence, they know they are not alone.  The perfectionist believes that no one can do the job as good as himself, and so he ends up doing his own work plus the work of the other one because he doesn’t trust that the other can do a good job.  Being a perfectionist comes from the ego, who is always seeking his own glory (and yours by the way). Being a perfectionist, and doing the best for God -“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.” - are two different things. God does not request from us to do someone else’s work, nor does He ask us to supervise and keep track of the growth of our fellow men. We are not responsible for the actions of the adults in our family, or friends and neighbors. If we saw it this way, our lives would be so much simpler because we would do only what we were entrusted to do.  We would advance faster and more efficiently. This is not selfishness; it is not interfering with the growth of our fellow man who is also being guided by the Holy Spirit and our Lord Jesus Christ. Be patient because everyone is progressing at their own pace.

Unfortunately, we spend a lot of time to observing, analyzing, and evaluating what others are doing. When you notice that someone else is acting incorrectly, ask God to help him, and by the way to help you, because it was your own perfectionism who noticed the fault. And our reaction towards our brother should be one of acceptance. Give him words of praise, and learn to give a compliment to anyone with whom you alternate. Treat them like you want to be treated. What you give, is what you receive. That is why the Apostle Paul said, "Bless and do not curse." Romans 12: 14b. You want to be blessed! “Whenever you deny a blessing to a brother [you] will feel deprived, because denial is as total as love…When brother acts insanely, he is offering you an opportunity to bless him. His need is yours.  You need the blessing you can offer him. There is no way for you to have it except by giving it. This is the law of God, and it has no exceptions.  What you deny you lack, not because it is lacking, but because you have denied it in another and are therefore not aware of it in yourself.” ACIM T.7.vii. 1-2

"The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit, be with you all."

2 Corinthians 13:14